Fotos de la biografíaIt's THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY!!! Have a fab long weekend my lovelies!! ♥

Fotos de la biografíaToday's Mid-day HAHA! The CIA were conducting a job interview for only highly qualified people. After all the background checks, interviews & testing were done, there were 3 finalists: 2 men & a woman. For the final test, the CIA agents took one of the men to a large metal door and handed him a gun. "We must know that you will follow instructions, no matter what the circumstances. Inside this room, you will find your wife sitting in a chair. Kill her!" said one of the agents. The man said, "You can't be serious! I could never shoot my wife!" "Then you're not the right man for the job. Take your wife and go home." The 2nd man was given the same instructions. He took the gun and went into the room. All was quiet for about 5 minutes. Then he came out with tears in his eyes and said, "I tried but i can't kill my wife!" The agents said, "You don't have what it takes. Take your wife & go home." Finally it's the woman's turn. She was given the same instructions to kill her husband. She took the gun & went into the room. Shots were heard, one shot after another. They heard screaming, crashing, banging on the walls. After a few minutes, all was quiet. The door slowly opened and there stood the woman. She wiped the sweat from her brow and said... "This gun is loaded with blanks. I had to heat him to death with the chair." =========================== Moral of the story... hell hath no fury like a woman scorned... or perhaps just simply...woman get things done. KEKEKEKEKEKEKK!!!

Car Decal Giveaway - Marilyn at Bishan Stadium earlier. We gave away Class 95FM car decals and 250 gift packs from TAFEP. Enjoy the long weekend!

Fotos de la biografíaDirty Dancing leads Gareth & Bryony popped by the show yesterday! Catch them from 24 May to 16 June at MBS. Now why didn't I ask for a lesson in dancing dirty?!

Hang in there! The long weekend starts real soon. And do remember to tune in to Class 95FM for a Y2K Weekend with our hosts Adora Sarah, Evon Loh and Jean Danker.

Amy Winehouse foundation raises £1.9m in a year to help young peoplewww.thesun.co.ukSTAR’S family have handed out hundreds of thousands of pounds to help disadvantaged young people around London

5 Words That (Could) Ruin Your Marriage, Class 95's Love Songs with Marilyn Lee.Words That Will Ruin Your Marriagewww.huffingtonpost.comBy Julie Orlove for YourTango.com Words are powerful. They can cut you, heal you, inspire you, and stop you from certain actions.

We will be featuring only the best music from the 2000's this weekend! Stay tuned to Class 95FM for a Y2K weekend!

Fotos subidas con el móvilClass 95's GASTRO GUIDE checks out... QUAYSIDE FISH BAR & BISTRO 31 Ocean Way Quayside Isle (Sentosa Cove) #01-11 Singapore 098375 Tel: 6268 8633 Opening hours: Sunday to Thursday: 12pm - 12am Friday & Saturday: 12pm - 1am Brunch menu every Sunday from 11am. Happy hours from 12-7pm. Late night menu & happy hours from 10pm every day. If you light up at the word "seafood", you'll love this week's recommendation. It's a newly opened upscale seafood joint by the waterside at Sentosa Cove's new Quayside Isle and it's called Quayside Fish Bar & Bistro! Opened by Reuben Tan of Bar Bar Black Sheep & S11 food court boss Darren Ong, this casual eatery boasts a modern Australian inspired menu built upon the freshest fish & seafood from around the world. In fact, the cold ocean items are air-flown in fresh or live on the day itself for absolute freshness! And no, the items are never re-frozen. You can either pick a fresh fish or crustacean you like and tell the chef how you want it cooked or select something from the a la carte menu. Here are my recommendations! Black Truffle & Ricotta Ravioli ($25) - This delicious starter really set the tone for things to come. The minute it arrived, I could smell the beautiful aroma of the black truffle. Very artfully plated, the food tasted as good as it looked. The pasta was nice and thin & soft, inside it's stuffed with yummy ricotta drizzled with an intense & flavourful brown buttered cream, crispy bread crumbs (fried panko) & torched octopus tentacles which were cooked just right - not overly chewy. Cold Seafood Platter ($150) - The is the house specialty and rightfully so because the seafood is fresh with a capital F! Served on a classic tiered stand, you have an entire whole boston lobster with roe inside and claws perfectly intact, oysters, half shell scallops from Hokkaido (where all their scallops come from), prawns, octopus & calamari. The seafood has that fresh clean taste as if it were just right out of the ocean and it tastes good on its own. But you also get a trio of sauces to go accompany it - Sambal, Tartare Sauce & Miso Sauce. The sambal was to die for! So fragrant & flavourful, just the right balance and not overly sweet and it has some kick! I couldn't get enough of it! If you're having this as a starter, I reckon it's enough to feed 4-6! Baked Barramundi ($36) - This dish was the big winner of the night for us. The barramundi's really fresh and it shows. It's seasoned just right so the natural taste of the fish isn't overwhelmed & cooked perfectly crispy on the outside but so moist and soft when you bite into it. Served with a really delicious brown buttered carrot puree that's velvety smooth, creamy and not overly sweet. That together with the saltiness of iberico chorizo flakes and a bit of tanginess from the Australian leek fondue makes for a perfect dish. Tiger Beer Battered Turbot ($26) - A not so simple fish & chips because it has THE crispiest batter I've ever had. As you cut it or chew it, it's so crunchy, it sounds like you're eating potato chips or something. Yes, it's THAT crunchy. So crunchy it is as if the batter is biting you back! Instead of the Dory, here they've opted for Turbot which is a more delicate light fish that's moist and juicy inside. It's served with white truffle scented shoestring fries, mashed mint-green peas & tartare sauce. Quayside House Laksa ($24) - This dish actually tastes more like drier but super intense curry noodles instead of laksa but it's really good. The flavour of the spices is strong in a good way & the sauce thick & creamy. There's just a wee hint of spiciness. A very addictive dish, the more we ate, the more we wanted. You might also want to order a serving of that awesome kick-ass sambal to go with this! Homemade Tiramisu ($14) - The menu says "the best in Sentosa, some say Singapore" and I'd have to agree! This is actually the Chef's secret recipe, so secret that even the owner doesn't know what goes into it! It's a really boozy Tiramisu with a lot of texture. It's soft, fluffy & creamy with a nice chocolatey taste, a hint of coffee and more than a hint of alcohol so this is a tiramisu with kick!! It's served with chocolate soil surrounding it to give it that texture. For a person who's not a fan of Tiramisu, I ate 3/4 of it! You cannot leave without ordering this. I enjoyed the food so much, I actually went back the next night with my momma and yes I had the tiramisu again! Pet lovers, you'll also be happy to know that the alfresco area is pet friendly.

Morning Express with the Singaporean contestant, Andrea Loh, of The Apprentice Asia!

Is that wise? Lady Gaga staggers out in her signature high heels after recovering from hip operationwww.dailymail.co.ukIt must have been agony - months of wearing flat shoes for the flamboyant, platform heel loving star. But last week Lady Gaga, 27, was reunited with her favourite heels as she hit the town in New York in the super high boots.

‘Worst moment as a father’: Bon Jovi on daughter’s ODwww.thesun.co.ukROCKER reveals his daughter confessing she had survived a heroin overdose last year ‘was a terrible tragic lesson’

Backstage at Billboard Music Awards: Madonna, Nicki Minaj, Miley Cyrus Minglewww.hollywoodreporter.comThe scene backstage at the Billboard Music Awards was wall-to-wall stars as music luminaries -- and their ginormous posses -- crowded into the narrow hallways of Las Vegas’ MGM Grand Arena on Sunday night.

Couple of days left to submit your entry for Morning Express Gives You A Better Life! This month, the Morning Express wants to fly you and a partner to Hong Kong! The package is inclusive of a round trip flight for 2 on Singapore Airlines, 2-night hotel stay and a seafood dinner with 2-way private transfer. In 50 words or less, describe what makes a travel experience with the Morning Express unforgettable. Email your entries to promotions@class95.sg and don’t forget to include your name, NRIC and contact number. All entries to be submitted by 23rd May 2013. Morning Express Gives You A Better Life is brought to you by The New American Express Singapore Airlines Krisflyer Ascend credit card. Visit americanexpress.com.sg/myascend to experience unforgettable journeys.

BBC - Newsbeat - Taylor Swift wins at Billboard Music Awards 2013www.bbc.co.ukThe country pop singer, Rihanna, One Direction and Justin Bieber all win at this year's Billboard Music Awards.

Nicki Minaj wins Top Streaming Artist and Top Rap Artist at the 2013 Billboards ~ Performing "High School" with Lil Wayne who says, "I'm the luckiest guy in the world!" the video «213519223415» uploaded byon Dailymotion.

"Life doesn’t stop when you have lost things precious to you," Aishah Samad (2003 SEA Games bronze medalist). Nearly $130k was raised in a 2-day charity shoot for the former national shooter who needs new prosthetic limbs. Class 95's Love Songs with Marilyn LeeNow that’s true couragewww.todayonline.comSINGAPORE — Ten months ago, former national shooter Aishah Samad was a healthy, independent mother-of-two who enjoyed travelling, outdoor activities and spending time with her friends. But today, the 40-year-old struggles with simple tasks such as brushing her teeth, bathing and feeding herself afte...

Come join Yasminne and Marilyn at the Cold Storage Kids Run at the Padang. We'll be here till 10am.

Glenn and Marilyn with one of the quitters and her family at the HPB I Quit roadshow at Toa Payoh Bus Interchange.

Join Glenn and Marilyn at the HPB I Quit roadshow at Toa Payoh Bus Interchange from now to 4pm!

Glenn Ong with the winning team of our lunch treat this week!

It's an All 80's Weekend on Class 95FM! Join our Class 95 DJs Evon Loh, Carol Smith and Glenn Ong as they play you all your favourite 80's hits this weekend! Get ready! Get set! Go!

Will.i.am on New Britney Spears Album: 'We Start Next Week'www.hollywoodreporter.comWill.i.am received an Honorary Clio Award Wednesday night for his work with brands like Coca-Cola, Intel and Beats by Dre. But he's also hard at work shaping another blockbuster brand -- Britney Spears, whose upcoming eighth studio album he's executive producing.

Robbie Williams’s jibe doesn’t rock DJwww.thesun.co.ukRADIO 1 star Nick Grimshaw says he still loves ex-Take That singer — despite him calling him a b***** for not playing his tracks for being too old

Maroon 5's Adam Levine Honored at BMI Pop Awardswww.hollywoodreporter.comThe 61st Annual BMI Pop Awards touched down at the iconic Beverly Wilshire Hotel on Tuesday. There, the performance rights organization honored the songwriters and music publishers behind the most played pop songs of the year. Hosted by BMI President and CEO Del Bryant and VP and General Manager, Ba...

Marilyn, Glenn, Yasminne & two "flapper chicks" at the Tiffany & Co. premiere of The Great Gstsby!

Fotos subidas con el móvilClass 95 checks out... OCTAPAS Spanish Tapas Bar Blk D, #01-08 Clarke Quay, River Valley Road Singapore 179023 (First restaurant on the right hand side after the bridge.) Tel: (65) 68372938 OPENING HOURS: Sunday: 12pm to 1am Monday - Thursday: 3pm to 1am Friday, Saturday & Eve of PH: 12pm to 2am It's all about Tapas this week and we checked out Octapas at Clarke Quay. It's been around nearly 3 years now (in August) and they serve up a myriad of hot & cold tapas, traditional chilled Sangrias, Paellas & more. Located at Clarke Quay just by the riverside, it has an indoor & alfresco area with live music. Opened till late, it's a great place to just kick back & relax or pop down when you feel a bit peckish. So here are my top picks! VALENCIANA PAELLA ($40 for 2/$60 for 4) - One of 4 paellas available and this is their signature version from Valencia. You've got chorizo, pork, chicken, mussels, squids, shrimps & fish. This colourful paella didn't just look pretty, it tasted so good too! Arrived soft, wet & gooey but after awhile when left to stand, the rice had the right consistency. Lots of spices have been used so it was bursting with flavour. The fish was soft & tasty, mussels & squid were fresh, the chorizos not overly salty and there's even a hard-boiled egg! The portion's pretty big so if you're going to be ordering more than just this dish, the portion for 4 can easily feed 6 or even 8 people. Piquillos Relllonos de Bacalao Gratinados ($17.50) - Stuffed Cod Piquillo Peppers. These pretty Spanish peppers were cooked until nice & mushy and they have a wonderful natural sweetness to them & aren't spicy! Inside, you have a creamy Cod mixture that's made of minced cod with milk, flour & smoked onion. It's served with a really delicious tomato cream sauce. Such a flavourful happy dish, you'll be going back for more. Lubina en Salsa Verde ($17.50) - Seabass in Salsa Verde. My favourite dish! It doesn't look like much when it arrives but when you put it into your mouth, it's POW WOW!! The seabass is so soft it melts in your mouth. The salsa verde isn't spicy, very flavourful without overwhelming the fish. A light delicate tapas that even the health fanatics will approve of. Served with mussels. Berenjena Tostada ($9.50) - This is the Spanish version of a brushcetta and one of 6 available. This Vegetarian one has aubergine, peppers, onions & grated parmesan cheese. The bread is fluffy and the outside is toasted nice & crispy & the veggies well marinated. You get a bit of sweet yet salty and yet a wee bit of sour. "Secreto" Cerdo Iberico ($17) - Grilled "Secreto" Iberico Pork, Porto Wine Sauce & Bacon Pie. The Iberico pork was really soft and tender and very tasty. It has a nice bit of marbeling in the meat to give it that juiciness. The Porto wine sauce is like a heartier brown sauce that goes really well with the pork without overwhelming it. Only thing is the Bacon Pie is on the salty side so if you love bacon & potato or like your dishes "giam", your eyes will be rolling skyward in bliss. If not, have a bit of the pie but concentrate on the yummy soft pork! Champinones al Ajillo ($12) - Sauteed mushrooms in sherry & garlic. Thick cut mushrooms that are really juicy with lots of garlic and chopped herbs. Yummy!

Get ready for a fun-filled weekend on Class 95 with the best music of the 1980's! Join us for an All 80's Weekend and keep it locked to Class 95FM!

Beyonce Cancels Belgium Tour Date for 'Dehydration and Exhaustion'www.hollywoodreporter.comOn Monday, rumors swirled that Beyonce is pregnant again. The next day, the singer canceled a tour date in Antwerp, Belgium. Are the two connected? If they are, Beyonce isn't saying. "Beyonce has been advised by her doctors to rest as a result of dehydration and exhaustion and will not be able to p...

If I had a flower for every time I thought of you, I could walk through my garden forever ~ Alfred Tennyson on Class 95's Love Songs with Marilyn Lee. I love these flowers I saw on Wonderland for Detailed Planners, and wanted to share them with you! Like my page, and post your fav dating spot in Singapore TODAY plus your marriage proposal story on my Facebook page. Awarding you a couples casual photography session worth $500 this week...Listen out for your story on air, The Proposal Story, Weeknights with me, Marilyn 9pm ~ 1am, on Class 95FM ♥Fotos de la biografíaOur day just ended. Sweet dreams from the Wonderlanders.

Divorce was a Perry good move, Katywww.thesun.co.ukCOMIC Brand isn’t viewed as The One That Got Away in the Hudson household — singer’s strict parents sound relieved

Astronaut’s Space Oddity cover is a Major hitwww.thesun.co.ukCOMMANDER Chris Hadfield sings Bowie classic from International Space Station as he bids goodbye to his ‘tin can’

Fotos de la biografíaSingapore Botanic Gardens ~ Win a photo session worth $500 this week. Like my Facebook page, then post a picture of your favorite dating spot in Singapore and include your marriage proposal story. Listen out for your story on air, The Proposal Story, Weeknights with me, Marilyn 9pm ~ 1am, on Class 95FM. Shay & Lacheemi at the Botanic Gardens on @[396662803727649:274:Class 95's Love Songs with Marilyn Lee]. Photo courtesy of Bobby Kiran Photography. Like @

The Morning Express is flying you and a partner to Hong Kong! The package is inclusive of a round trip flight for 2 on Singapore Airlines, 2-night hotel stay and a seafood dinner with 2-way private transfer. In 50 words or less, describe what makes a travel experience with the Morning Express unforgettable. Email your entries to promotions@class95.sg and don’t forget to include your name, NRIC and contact number. All entries to be submitted by 23rd May 2013. The New American Express Singapore Airlines Krisflyer Ascend credit card. Visit americanexpress.com.sg/myascend to experience unforgettable journeys.

Have a good Monday!! :D xoxo, Class95 Lunchbreak with YasminneFotos de la biografíaToday's Mid-day HAHA!! 3 frogs are arrested & brought into the courtroom for sentencing. The judge asks the first frog, "What's your name?" The 1st frog replies, "Frog." The judge asks, "What were you arrested for, Frog?" It replies, "Blowing bubbles in the water." The judge turns to the second frog and asks, "And what is your name?" It replies, "Frog." So the judge asks, "And what were you arrested for, Frog?" It replies, "Blowing bubbles in the water." Now turning to the 3rd frog, the judge again asks,"What is your name" It replies, "Bubbles."

Fotos de la biografíaToday's QUICKIE - AN OLD STAR WARS SET IS INHABITED! In the Star Wars film, “The Phantom Menace,” Anakin Skywalker and his mother come from a desert settlement called Mos Eisley. The movie features shots of domed sand structures making up the village. The footage was shot in Tunisia, and the structures were actually built, they weren't miniatures or special effects. It turns out that people have actually moved into these structures and are living there. In video footage you can see people’s things piled inside the sand houses and even pets roaming around. In one, a desert fox can be seen in a cage. In another, a seemingly domesticated bird of prey watches over a pile of clothes. No actual residents appear in the video footage, but the settlement does appear inhabited. Wonder if they’re Star Wars fans? Here's the video link...

Class 95FM's Lunch Treat! Let Glenn Ong from Morning Express take you and 9 of your colleagues out for lunch! We’re treating you to lunch at Edge located at Pan Pacific Singapore this Friday, 17th May. Edge is a theatrical and interactive dining space that offers a culinary tour of the region and the Pacific Rim with seven open kitchens. Simply tell us why we should pick you and send in your entries to promotions@class95.sg by Wednesday, 15th May! Do include your full name, contact number and the company you’re working for. Good luck!

Good morning to all Class 95FM listeners! Here are the new songs which we have introduced this week: 1. Get Lucky – Daft Punk featuring Pharrell & Nile Rodgers 2. Let Her Go – Passenger 3. Everything You Didn’t Do – Jamie Cullum

Fans of Sarah Cheng-De Winne, vote her in to the 12th Annual Independent Music Awards! Click onfor an e-vote. Class 95's Love Songs with Marilyn LeeFotos de la biografíaShare/RT if you Care: I've been doubly nominated at the 12th Annual Independent Music Awards (US), and it would mean alot to me if u took a second to vote. Ur vote will contribute to the % outcomes of each winner! Here's how: 1. Visit 2. Click on R&B/Soul and Contemporary Christian categories 3. Login to vote for “Diagonal Rain” & “Love-Shape Void”! Thanks in advance for your support:) Love, Sarah

Come join Glenn & Yasminne at GET IT@Expo at Singapore Expo Hall 6A. They'll be here till 7pm!

Fotos de la biografía…To a daughter, a father is usually the first impression of what a man is like, and on this model she rates men in general, and in particular, a potential husband. She will probably choose someone with similar qualities if she respects her father or else, someone very different if she doesn’t like what she sees in her father. In traditional Chinese families, fathers act like the chairman of a company, providing the financial security and is the final authority in matters of discipline and major decisions. The mother takes on the day-to-day running of the home. When the mother cannot cope, the father steps in. Your father comes from a traditional family but unlike his father, he has appointed himself co-manager with me. On a score of ten, you have given him a seven. You say that he is overprotective. He is quick to say no if you want to come home late at night. I know he takes his role seriously because he will get up from bed suddenly and ask me, “Is Ming home?” And when you need transport to get home at night, he would go immediately to fetch you from wherever you are. You only need to telephone him. To protect his family against harm is a basic instinct in a man. He has been looking after you from the day you were born. Have I told you that he used to sterilize all your milk bottles, and every day made six bottles of milk and put them in the fridge before he went to work? Now that you have grown up, he wants to protect you, not as a father protects a baby, but as a father protecting his grown-up daughter. Being a man and a wise one, he knows the potential dangers out there. He also wants to protect you and your brother against the sense of having failed. That is why he is insistent you two keep up with your work and study hard. Time is his most precious commodity, yet he makes every effort to spend time with us. Time spent fetching and sending, over dinner, in the evenings at home. And we take it for granted that he will always be there for us. Your father will probably still fall short of a perfect score because children will always have different expectations at different times. In my opinion, a parent should try to meet the children’s expectations only up to a point. There really is more to what a parent does than the children would agree with or understand. It could be years later when children appreciate the wisdom of a parent’s action. Till then you will just have to accept it. Love, Mum 16 June 1994 Part 6 of 6, excerpts from the collection of letters “My Daughter, My Friend: Letters to a Daughter,” by Irene Chua Hwee Kee, 2013, Singapore, on @[396662803727649:274:Class 95's Love Songs with Marilyn Lee], because our mums are never far from our hearts. HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

Fotos de la biografíaPart 5 of 6, excerpts from “My Daughter, My Friend: Letters to a Daughter,” by Irene Chua Hwee Kee, 2013, on @[396662803727649:274:Class 95's Love Songs with Marilyn Lee]. Written when her daughter was 17 till she turned 21, these letters, while celebrating that unique relationship between a mother and a growing up daughter, provides valuable insights into life, which mothers sometimes wished they knew how to put across and daughters wish their own mothers had talked to them about. …My view is that a person’s emotional and mental make-up is really quite fragile. For example, traumatic experiences can permanently scar a person. Some people never completely recover from depression and other psychiatric problems brought on by terrible things that happen to them. There is no way to know who would be so badly affected. By then, it may be too late. There seems to be in these people a thin line between normalcy and mental and emotional breakdown. What we read, see and hear form our experiences and can have a profound impact on our lives. The bad things we persist in experiencing can darken our thoughts, change the way we think about ourselves and the world and influence our behaviour. The more we are exposed to evil, the less we get repulsed. After some time, it doesn’t bother us as much. Then comes the point when evil becomes acceptable and its hard to know the difference between good and evil. So don’t seek out experiences that can possibly have a negative effect on you because you can never tell how badly you may be affected…there is plenty of thrills in the pursuit of goodness and truth and things beautiful and wholesome. That is where the adventure in living starts. I would like you to learn to be discerning. Exercise your free will and choose good. I have found it helpful when I am in a spot to remember this verse, (from Phillippians) Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, Whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable. If anything is excellent or praiseworthy - Think about such things. Love, Mum 26 May 1994 (Published by Ethos Books Singapore)

We'll be playing only the songs that reach #1 on the charts on Class 95FM this weekend. Join Class 95 DJs Adora Sarah, Mike Kasem and Yasminne Cheng for a Number One Weekend!

Fotos de la biografíaToday's Mid-day HAHA!! An elderly married couple go to the doctor for their annual medical check-ups. After the examination, the doctor says to the elderly man, "You appear to be in good health. Do you have any medical concerns that you would like to discuss with me?" The man says, "In fact, I do. After I have sex with my wife for the first time, I am usually hot & sweaty. And then. after I have sex with my wife the second time, I am usually cold & chilly!" The doctor replies, "Hmmm...this is very interesting. Let me do some research & get back to you." After examining the elderly woman, the doctor says, "Everything appears to be fine. Do you have any medical concerns that you would like to discuss with me?" The woman replies, "No." To which the doctor then asks, "Your husband has an unusual concern. He claims that he is usually hot & sweaty after having sex with you the first time & then cold & chilly after the second time. Do you know why?" The old lady rolls her eyes and says, "Oh that old buzzard! That's because the first time is usually in summer and the second time is usually in winter!"

Corrinne May with Glenn and The Flying Dutchman. Catch her at the Esplanade Concert Hall on 7June 2013. Corrinne May - 'Your Song' concert. Tickets available at SISTIC.

Prince, the Ultimate Guitar Hero, Indulges his Rock Side: Concert Reviewwww.hollywoodreporter.comWith all-female band 3rd Eye Girl backing him, the Purple One proves -- yet again -- why he might be music's most dynamic live entertainer.

We should all do our part to save water; now we have lots of Water Wallies to remind us!

HPB I Quit 28 Day Countdown! Join Yasminne Cheng and Mike Kasem this Saturday at Tampines Bus Interchange from 2pm - 4pm and pledge your reasons to quit smoking. Alternatively, you can sms “IQuit” <space> “95” <space> “Name” to 76333 See you this Saturday!

Fotos de la biografíaSO TRUE....It's THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY again!!

Fotos de la biografíaThe popular book “My Daughter, My Friend: Letters to a Daughter,” by Irene Chua Hwee Kee was first published in 1996. It has just been newly released as a 2nd edition, as a valued source of nurturing for girls, boys, teens and young adults. Excerpt, Part 4 of 6, on @[396662803727649:274:Class 95's Love Songs with Marilyn Lee]. Dear Ming, I have advised you to have lots of friends and to get to know many boys before you settle for one. Yet I don’t want you to give your boyfriends the wrong signals. I’m bringing this up now because of a particular guy you see more than the others. Please remember that people and their feelings must be taken seriously. In real life, men and women can be hurt very deeply and broken relationships can permanently scar a life. It is difficult for a boy and girl to have a close and long-standing relationship and keep it platonic. Friendship with a boy can change into courtship. It is at this stage that trust is expected or assumed. It is at this stage too that hurt is greatest should one person break the relationship. So before you get into a serious relationship I want you to be aware that people interpret behaviour to mean different things. A girl from a sheltered and traditional background may interpret a boy’s good manners, such as opening car doors and giving her lifts at nights after attending functions, as being ‘interested’ in her. To him it may just be common courtesy. Do not just slide into a relationship. At an early point in a close friendship, ask yourself, “What am I doing with this?” Ask him too, what he has in mind. Make a mutual agreement regarding the type of friendship you would both like to have. Review the relationship after some time. If you are not ready to commit to having an exclusive relationship, say so. Since you are still young and studying, and uncertain of definite plans for the next few years, don’t make promises for the future over which you have no control. I have no intention to match-make you. So don’t let anymore else pressurize you to commit if deep down you don’t want to. A man I know finally relented and agreed to marry his long-time girlfriend because she threatened to kill herself. The marriage broke up within a year. Similarly, never do anything to jeopardize your right to make a decision. If you realize you have made a mistake and the relationship is not going the way it should, decide and get out. It wont hurt so badly now as it would later on. Always keep your friendships honest and frank with no hidden agendas. Never toy with other people’s feelings or manipulate them. Just as we don’t want to get hurt, we shouldn’t hurt others. Love, Mum 9 September 1993